While on a flight from Washington DC to Copenhagen, I sat next to a charming middle aged African American lady who just started working as an event planner for a large tech company in San Francisco. During the conversation, I mentioned I was coming back from a conference where I presented a report on Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender (LGBTI+) Workplace diversity and inclusion. Initially, she feigned interest but her body language and facial expressions betrayed her. Her smile and charm faded in an instant. I thought to myself, “Girl, San Francisco, is the ‘most’ gay place in the world.